The Italian Voice

After almost one month, I am back, not to the normality, but here on my blog.

My personal situation is still pending, but I am trying to be strong and continue to look for a job, while trying to wait to get the chance to prove that I am sincere, very sorry for what happened and willing to sort out everything, at least with him because I love him to death, but I hope with time also with his family.

I titled this entry in this way because it is just the case to tell it: “if the mountain will not go to Muhammad, then Muhammad will go to the mountain“.

It is exactly what I am trying to do.

My mother’s friend asked a few times to her friend about my job application as merchandiser and she told that my CV is in pole position for an interview, but maybe they are not needing someone in this period and anyway I can not wait for too much time.
Yesterday morning I wanted to browse the job offers on Infojobs.it (if you are interested, you must know that it is also available for Spain and Mexico, reacheable at the url http://www.infojobs.com and they offer jobs also in foreign countries, just give it a try, for me it is fantastic) and I found two interesting ads, so I immediately sent my application.
You know what? After one hour I received a call from a job agent near Bologna which asked me my availability. I replied positively and she assured me to send my CV to the company and to let me know about an interview.

So yesterday I thought a lot about something which always caused me discussions in the past with my parents about the kind of job which I should consider, I guess it is all about different points of view.
Well, first of all now I am not in the right position to be picky and I actually do not mind what kind of job I can have, I only need to work and earn money, while proving that I very much want to live a simple serene life with my boyfriend, being a good person.
Then I absolutely do not judge any kind of job because I firmly think that every job is great if it is honest.
What I want to say is that I do not mind to be a secretary or a labourer, because the job should be only considered as something which allow us to live decorously and for me it should not be seen as the reason of our life!!

That is why I am waiting to tell to my parents that maybe I found a job:

- because they still need to call me for the job interview;
- because that job will be as char in some companies in my surroundings.

my personal shot

Now the question comes spontaneously: Do you have a bias against some kind of jobs or do you consider everything as an opportunity, like I do?

P.S. Thanks a lot for your friendship, I am ok, sorry if I did not have the time and the right mood to reply personally to each of you, you are in my heart and I hope to see you all here again. See you soon, my friends!

I decided that I have mulled over too much, now I want to react, even if my boyfriend and I will be in the distance at least for a while, even if nothing is ok for us yet, even if I have to do something which I never imagined to do here once again.
I want to stop crying, I already did it for 8 consecutive days, and I want to roll up my sleeves while waiting to change things and have my life with my boyfriend back (I really hope so).
I also want to stop telling a lot about this situation, because I have the fear that something could be misunderstood, like in fact happened some days ago.

I prepared my CV, I asked myself what will be my ideal job in this situation and I started to send my application to some agencies, supermarkets and ipermarkets which offer a job as merchandiser.

Fortunately my mother has a very kind friend who works for a supermarket of the same chain for which I worked some years ago, she wants to tell about me at the director so that maybe he will be able to offer me a position soon, it would be great!
That friend works during night shifts and I must admit that I would appreciate the same hours, as I am almost used to be awake during nights, especially in this period with this love difficulty, and as it would allow me to be free during the days and maybe also to reach my boyfriend more than what I could do with day shifts.

I started to remember that I loved that period in 2004 during which I worked as cashier into an ipermarket near Bologna, I worked only 18 hours per week receiving a nice salary and everything I did in addition was all cashed as overtime, it was wonderful!!

Cashes at the ipermarket where I used to work in 2004 and
where I sent my application again in these days (my own shot)

I know it will be hard to meet my boyfriend a very few times per month or maybe only once or nothing at all, but I totally trust in him and I know he loves me, I am sure that he knows what to do with time to avoid to force the situation, especially with his family.
Anyway, I hope he will really be able to give me another chance soon, that is why I want to wait and to “follow his rules”, showing him that I am judicious and adult, I hope that this good behaviour will pay me in the future, I really love my boyfriend and I want a future with him.

Well, I just realized that probably titled this entry in the wrong way, because nowadays the young Italians do not care much about love; if they do not have what they want, they immediately look for it somewhere else, they do not fight but, on the contrary, they choose the easiest way to be happy, which is often a fake happiness.

Sometimes I think to be very different from the major part of the young ones, I am a sort of “old fashioned” girl, the first and most important valour for me is LOVE LOVE and LOVE again, in every form, for my point of view without it I am nothing, we are nothing!!

So please, wish me good luck with the job, but especially with love, I am determined to resist and struggle because I totally love!!

In this period, I am again dealing with the constant thought of the job hunting.
It is really psychologically stressful, especially if you live in Italy and if you already changed your job some times, like I did for several unwilled reasons.

photo by abuigues

Here you never know what to expect from an interview; in fact, if you changed a lot of jobs, some recruiters may think:

1) that you are very adaptable and flexible and is obviously good;
2) that there is something wrong in you, so maybe you are a goof-off.

So what is the right behaviour to have? What to say exactly during the interview? How to introduce yourself and your working experiences?

I guess that in Italy nothing is ok when you talk about the job, never! If you say that you are flexible, they will think that you are not reliable; if you say that you want a steady job, they will surely end up looking for someone with a more modern mind.

I am also noticing a substantial difference about the job offers in my region, which is the Emilia-Romagna, and my future place, which will be in Piedmont. Maybe I am prejudiced, but it seems that here we have more varied job offers, in many more fields, while there they only offer positions in two or three fields…

Well, I do not mind. I know the job hunting is always hard, I guess everywhere, especially in this era, but I also know that it can be quite stirring in my situation, as I will have the chance to start all over again, choosing exactly who I would like to be and this opportunity comes only a few times in life or maybe only once.
I absolutely do not want to waste my time, I have so many ideas in my mind to explore just before and after my relocation to low Piedmont.

Now I only need a 10 days-vacation to Belgium with my parents (fortunately I was able to plan a little getaway this year, I will say good-bye later, as we will leave only on July 31st), then I will start to move the last things and to really think about my future in Novi Ligure.
Yay, it sounds very exciting!